Abiding by the Law of Attraction
Author: Kent Thune
When we speak on topics of beauty and health, we often and ironically overlook one of the most powerful yet simple means of making ourselves more beautiful and healthy: positive energy. Beauty is much more than physical appearance. It is a feeling that you project outward. People may remember some of what you say or how you look, but they never forget how you make them feel. For example, when you smile and share positive energy with others, you inspire them to smile and they naturally feel positive about you—they are attracted to you.
This is the essence of something called the law of attraction. Put simply, it is the idea that you get what you think about; your thoughts determine your experience; and a positive attitude tends to attract positive results.
But your positive energy need not be for the sole purpose of attracting others; it is an effective and necessary means of inspiring yourself to feel good, to have a healthy perspective on life. The modern day Buddhist, Thich Nhat Hanh, captured this idea well when he said, “Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.”
And this famous quote from Mahatma Gandhi aligns well with the law of attraction: “Men often become what they believe themselves to be. If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it even if I didn’t have it in the beginning.”
In the best-selling 2006 self-help book, The Secret, author Rhonda Byrne shares this sage advice with readers: “When you want to attract something into your life, make sure your actions don’t contradict your desires…. Think about what you have asked for, and make sure that your actions are mirroring what you expect to receive, and that they’re not contradicting what you‘ve asked for. Act as if you are receiving it. Do exactly what you would do if you were receiving it today, and take actions in your life to reflect that powerful expectation. Make room to receive your desires, and as you do, you are sending out that powerful signal of expectation.”
But this “secret” that sold millions of copies of Byrne’s book around the world is not really a secret. The power of positive thinking has been understood by some of the most prominent people in history: Plato, Galileo, Beethoven, Thomas Edison, and Albert Einstein. And much of this power also overlaps with that of prayer and meditation.
In a manner of speaking, your attitudes, thoughts, and overall energy toward life can create a self-fulfilling prophecy and, in this sense, “like attracts like,” both positively and negatively:
If you believe that your dreams cannot be fulfilled, then you will not attempt to turn them into reality and, therefore, your dreams will not come true. Even if your dreams seem difficult to reach, believe in them and work toward them. Everything begins with an idea. Look at the work of Steve Jobs or Walt Disney for evidence.
If you pursue meaning as a destination in your life, you are more likely to be energized by hope and to be fulfilled by the pursuit of meaning itself. Whether any particular destination is reached or not, your meaning is in the path, which is already a destination.
If you perceive money to be scarce, you will want to keep it safe, which can ironically hinder your capacity to build wealth. Your money cannot attract more money. But if you perceive money as something that is abundant, you are more willing to take risks with it and to share it with others, which increases the potential for money to grow and for others to realize its abundance, thereby, making money more abundant.
If you share yourself and your unique talents with others, you create the momentum of giving that goes beyond you, and this extended momentum consists of others sharing with others and others sharing with you (this captures the idea of “pay it forward”).
If you are fearful of suffering, you are already suffering now. When you are actually suffering, and you attach a positive meaning to it, rather than dwelling on the suffering itself, you enable yourself to move beyond it. Viktor Frankl, Holocaust survivor, said in his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Frankl also said, “A human being is a deciding being.” The law of attraction itself works to the degree that you choose to make it work, which is why it can be described as a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy. Even if you are a person of deep religious faith, it is important to understand that your life is not completely pre-destined. You have unique gifts and a certain potential that can only be fulfilled (or limited) by you.
And now we return to where we began, with the topic of beauty and health: If you feel that you are unattractive, then you have already made it so. But if you like yourself, you will become more attractive to others, and their attraction to you will not only make you feel beautiful but you will actually be beautiful. And remember that when you help others see their beauty, you put forth your own beautiful light.
Try abiding by the law of attraction and see the results for yourself. Smile at someone and see what happens. Give compliments; write positive notes; offer positive encouragement. But remember what is most important: You are unique, you are gifted, you are happy and you are beautiful. Can you feel that? Now you know that the power of attraction works.
Kent Thune is a money manager and the owner of a Hilton Head Island investment advisory firm, Atlantic Capital Investments. He is also a free-lance writer and is currently working on a book to be published in 2016. You can follow his musings on mind, money and mastery of life at TheFinancialPhilosopher.com or follow him on Twitter @ThinkersQuill.